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It isn’t rude to ask a friend what they earn
The salary taboo protects employers more than friendships. When asking is fine, when it is rude, how to ask, and how to decline gracefully.
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Short reflections. The things that do not need a whole essay.
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In defence of the gift card
The gift card is supposed to be the lazy present. But a drawer of unwanted candles says more about the giver than the receiver.
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Some people are always five minutes away
“Just parking.” “Almost there.” Why chronic lateness feels like a judgement about whose time matters, why it is rarely arrogance, and why uncertainty is…
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Why does nobody reply to invitations any more?
Unanswered invitations have become normal. What silence costs the person hosting, and why a clear no is often the kinder reply.
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You are allowed not to want a fuss on your birthday
Not wanting a party is not sadness, ingratitude or a problem to be solved. A quiet birthday you chose is still a celebration.
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Splitting the bill evenly is not as fair as it sounds
“Shall we just split it?” sounds like the relaxed option. It usually costs the person who ate least, and she is the one least…
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To the woman starting again
For anyone beginning again after a hard stretch — an ending, an illness, a change you did not choose. A short letter about the…
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Dear girl who thinks she takes up too much space
A letter to a girl who is being made to feel like a problem — and, if I am honest, to the one I…