Relationships
Spectatoring: the half of you that never gets into bed
Not a shortage of desire, but a shortage of attention. On watching yourself during sex, telling a partner about it, and the difference between…
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Relationships
Friendship, love, family and the quiet work of knowing people well.
Relationships
The friendship that ended quietly, and what it left behind
No argument, no betrayal, no final conversation. Just two women who slowly stopped being the person the other one told things to, and the…
Relationships
Love should not require you to become smaller
There is a difference between someone who is worried about you and someone who is embarrassed by you. They can use identical words. Telling…
Relationships
Boundaries are not rejection
I understood boundaries as a threat for years — something you issue when a relationship is nearly over. They are closer to the opposite.